| Location | Frimley |
| Age | 59 years |
| Cause of Death | Pneumonia |
| Date of Birth | 06/03/1949 |
| Date of Death | 22/08/2008 |
| Visitors | 605 since 06/09/2008 |
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Memories of a special auntie.
I have many memories of my time with Auntie Brenda, but some stick in my mind more than others. I hope some of the things Iβm about to say will help you to remember her as the funny, modest, cheerful, and occasionally sadistic person that she was!
Throughout her life Brenda wasnβt blessed with the best of health but she rarely complained about being in pain, even as she neared her last days. She did, however, enjoy inflicting pain on other people β mainly in the form of Chinese burns, twisting fingers and stabbing people with her nails. Even on her last evening, she made time to scratch me and grip my hand tightly until I begged for mercy!
Brenda had a very wicked sense of humour where pain was concerned. I often get scolded for laughing at people when they hurt themselves but Brenda put me to shame! If you stubbed your toe or tripped over you could guarantee Brenda would be sat there, head down, chuckling to herself. The more fuss you made, the more she laughed. If you dropped something, sheβd be powerless to help you pick it up β she wouldnβt be able to move for laughing! She found fun in so many things, which was lovely β even if it was at the expense of others more often than not!
Of course I donβt only remember Bren for the pain she inflicted! I also remember her for her kindness, her patience, how much she loved Daniel OβDonnell and the way she took so long to eat the tiniest of sandwiches! I remember her little bell when she needed help in the bathroom and how she always wanted scampi if we ate at a restaurant. But most of all I remember how close she was to her family.
I feel privileged to have spent time with Brenda the night before she died. She was tired but was happy to speak about the people she loved. I asked her to tell me what she thought of her family. When I mentioned her dad she simply said he was βWonderfulβ. She described her mum as βLovelyβ and her sister Dawn as βa good sisterβ. I asked her how she felt about my dad. She smiled but wouldnβt say. After much persuasion she finally said with a wry smile βheβs an aggravating sodβ! In those words Brenda perfectly summed up her little brother!
In her last hours Brenda was calm and peaceful. She was smiling and joking with me, making funny faces & noises because βshe felt like itβ. She seemed better than she had for weeks, more relaxed and generally like she was before the illness started to take hold. That is certainly how I will remember my Auntie Brenda.
Brenda, wherever you may be I am sure youβre now with the people & pets that we have loved and lost. And I hope that youβre telling Nan about everything thatβs happened since sheβs been away. Just remember Bren, when youβre sitting down for a cup of tea β donβt put your nose in the cup!
I know exactly what Brenda would be saying to me if she was here now listening to this, so I have a reply ready! Brendaβ¦knickers to you too!
Hi Brenda your Dad joined you today which expect you know tell we love him very much and will miss you all always xxx
Angel day
We cannot believe it is 3 years since you received the call to say that you had slipped away, we knew it was going to happen but just wish we could have been with you but you had your own ideas as usual.
We all miss you very much yoou are forever in our hearts and remembered with love xxxxx
♥ α¦α¦ 6th MARCH 2011♥ α¦α¦
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Hi!
Hi Bren, just stopping by to say hi. It's Andrews 30th birthday today, hope you are giving him a party to remember (but no Chinese burns!!!)
Miss you loads, wish you were here.
Love you always, Joanne x
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Happy 60th birthday Brenda, hope you like your headstone which was finally finished and put in place today for your special day. We cannot believe they have taken so long to do it but it does look nice now.
You are missed by all the family everday and will be remembered with love forever. Dad Peter Jane Dawn David Nicola Geoffrey Joanne Phillip Alan Hannah Luke Bobby Stanley Georgia and DJ xxxxxxx Also cousin June sends her love to you xxxxxxx
For your birthday xx
We think about you always,
we talk about you still,
you have never been forgotten,
and you never will.
We hold you close within our hearts,
and there you will remain,
to walk with us throughout our lives
until we meet again.
- Author Unknown -
Happy Birthday!
Happy Birthday Bren! Sorry you're not here to share it with us, but hope you're having a good time up there with Nan, Andrew and everyone else!
We love you and miss you, and will never forget you.
Lots of love, hugs and chinese burns!
Joanne, Alan & Georgia xxx
To Our Darling Brenda, You've now been laid to rest with your mum who you missed so much.Hope you find the peace and health that you deserve. You are missed EVERY HOUR OF EVERYDAY.LOVE ALWAYS XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
To My Darling Sister-in-law, It has only been a short time since you slipped away from us, to join your mum but you are already missed so much. You were very special . We will look after Dad for you. He misses you alot. We will always love you. loads of love Jane
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